Girl B: How were they?
Girl A: 1. He liked me, I didn't like him. 2. I liked him, he didn't like me.
Girl B: Oh I see ...
Girl A: Why can't it be one occasion that I could have reciprocal love?
Girl B: Why do you think your love weren't reciprocated?
Girl A: Many times I thought he was the one, but I was wrong.
Girl B: Has it occured to you that you might be looking in all wrong directions for the right guy?
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I believe the saying that only when you know who you are, then you can 
find out what you want. When I was in my early twenties, I was eager to find a boyfriend and settle down with a man I am madly in love with. I have tried very hard to look for Mr Right around me. Sometimes the RIGHT guy appeared, but at WRONG time. Many times the absolutely WRONG guy appeared at the RIGHT time. I don't think there is anything wrong with me, or anything wrong with the RIGHT guy. I believe the concept on the RIGHT guy still exists. Just that many times we are too influenced by Hollywood movies and think that all RIGHT guys must appear in Jude Law package (ie. good look, good dressing sense, melts all ladies around him with one simple smile etc.). Fact not necessarily be like that. I have stopped searching for Mr Right ever since Louis got married because I believed (still believe) the only RIGHT guy that God has sent for me, has been rejected by me upfront. He has moved on and found his very own Ms RIGHT. Although, may be, she might be his "theory of second best" but she is the ultimate winner. I have found and lost the guy to her. I have stopped searching.
find out what you want. When I was in my early twenties, I was eager to find a boyfriend and settle down with a man I am madly in love with. I have tried very hard to look for Mr Right around me. Sometimes the RIGHT guy appeared, but at WRONG time. Many times the absolutely WRONG guy appeared at the RIGHT time. I don't think there is anything wrong with me, or anything wrong with the RIGHT guy. I believe the concept on the RIGHT guy still exists. Just that many times we are too influenced by Hollywood movies and think that all RIGHT guys must appear in Jude Law package (ie. good look, good dressing sense, melts all ladies around him with one simple smile etc.). Fact not necessarily be like that. I have stopped searching for Mr Right ever since Louis got married because I believed (still believe) the only RIGHT guy that God has sent for me, has been rejected by me upfront. He has moved on and found his very own Ms RIGHT. Although, may be, she might be his "theory of second best" but she is the ultimate winner. I have found and lost the guy to her. I have stopped searching. 
Strangely, lately when I am no more searching, I seem to notice finding the RIGHT guy is afterall not a difficult task. You don't do much compromise like what mediocre novels taught us. You don't lower expectations like what glossy magazines claimed. It's the feelings. He made you feel like "you belong to", both of you live in the "same tribe" and speak "same language".
2 comments:
Very precisely and profoundly described. I like the photos attached to the entry too. It's so appropriate and speaks all.
Yep, Great Minds Think Alike!!! I thought of lines and scripts in "The Holiday" when I was writing for this particular post.
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