Pet Talk

How time flies. It has been a year since Pickles left us. By tomorrow it will be one year that Bobby has stayed with us.

Pickles must have listened to our prayers because Bobby does turn out to be a brave and funny dog. He will come into kitchen the moment he hears cutlery-laying sound. He has gained so much weight compared to the first time he came to our house. He plays sympathy card well - pretends to look sad when no one plays with him. He runs like a Superdog when he hears someone at our gate. He barks at all dogs in the vicinity.

What's Next?

I finished reading the 7th book of Harry Potter three weeks ago. I am disappointed with the ending.

(1) Voldermort should not die. Harry Potter, together with the Order of the Phoenix, should give him a memory-loss charm and turn him into a muggle and guide him to be a good person. Death is not the answer to end sorrow or sufferings.

(2) The 7th book has made Professor Dumbledore reads more like a coward than wizard.

(3) It is obviouis that Severus Snape is the good one. As compared, it seems Lily Potter has made wrong choice to marry James Potter who contributed nothing to save his son or to the wizarding world.

(4) All his siblings fought so hard to protect the Boy who should live, Charlie Weasley seemed to be always Missing In Action. Bill scarred his face, George lost one of his ears and Fred died.

(5) Lupin and Tonk got married, had a child Teddy Lupin and they died in the battle against Voldermort. The last few pages in the 7th book didn't narrate well on the parenting skills of Harry Potter. Having lost his parents himself at young age and as the Godfather to Teddy Lupin, I believe Harry Potter should not leave Teddy Lupin to live on his own. All the focus of Harry Potter seemed to be on Albus Severus Potter, his second son.

The ending is too mediocre. May be I have set too high expectations for the 7th book.

Life Is A Journey Of Discovery

Last couple of days were stressful at home. My brother was not very happy with his friends, my sister was not very happy with her run, and I was not very happy with a colleague. When I couldn't bottle my frustuations anymore, I confided in my mother and she has offered the best magical antedote that I would like to share with all.

I wasn't happy with my colleague because she took my kindness and humbleness for granted. My mother told me it is hard to keep with others' expectations - either you listen to them and lose yourself, or you listen to yourself and listen to them only when relevant. I found this tip very helpful. I feel my shoulders lighter today when I have decided that it's okay to adopt different views. I have conveyed my part of job and I will move on. I know this route of discover myself is not a smooth-sailing trip, but I know I am learning at every stage and I believe my life ahead would be more interesting when I fight for what I really deserve.

Although I don't like this poster, I found the following quote very meaningful.

Right Or Wrong

Girl A: I have had two relationships.
Girl B: How were they?

Girl A: 1. He liked me, I didn't like him. 2. I liked him, he didn't like me.

Girl B: Oh I see ...

Girl A: Why can't it be one occasion that I could have reciprocal love?

Girl B: Why do you think your love weren't reciprocated?

Girl A: Many times I thought he was the one, but I was wrong.

Girl B: Has it occured to you that you might be looking in all wrong directions for the right guy?

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I believe the saying that only when you know who you are, then you can find out what you want. When I was in my early twenties, I was eager to find a boyfriend and settle down with a man I am madly in love with. I have tried very hard to look for Mr Right around me. Sometimes the RIGHT guy appeared, but at WRONG time. Many times the absolutely WRONG guy appeared at the RIGHT time. I don't think there is anything wrong with me, or anything wrong with the RIGHT guy. I believe the concept on the RIGHT guy still exists. Just that many times we are too influenced by Hollywood movies and think that all RIGHT guys must appear in Jude Law package (ie. good look, good dressing sense, melts all ladies around him with one simple smile etc.). Fact not necessarily be like that. I have stopped searching for Mr Right ever since Louis got married because I believed (still believe) the only RIGHT guy that God has sent for me, has been rejected by me upfront. He has moved on and found his very own Ms RIGHT. Although, may be, she might be his "theory of second best" but she is the ultimate winner. I have found and lost the guy to her. I have stopped searching.

Strangely, lately when I am no more searching, I seem to notice finding the RIGHT guy is afterall not a difficult task. You don't do much compromise like what mediocre novels taught us. You don't lower expectations like what glossy magazines claimed. It's the feelings. He made you feel like "you belong to", both of you live in the "same tribe" and speak "same language".